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This 3 week self-guided course is for you if you struggle to put yourself first, but would love for things to be different…
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If, after a long time pleasing others and second guessing yourself, you’re ready to create more space for your own needs and take back control of your life.
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You probably already know that you could do with ‘working on your people-pleasing’.
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But you might feel like these behaviours are too ingrained to change, or that you’re not worthy of putting yourself first.
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And you may be a little bit terrified by the idea of anyone thinking you’re ‘difficult’ or selfish. And you can’t stand the thought of upsetting anyone with an unexpected ‘no’.
I’d love to reassure you that you can prioritise yourself and your needs in a way that feels gentle, respectful and supportive.
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And you deserve that. Because people-pleasing is exhausting...
your world might look something like this:
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​You rarely put yourself first and feel like your life is controlled by others' needs.
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You feel deeply responsible for the comfort and happiness of everyone around you – to the detriment of your own.
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You tend to ignore your internal voice as it silently screams ‘no’ while you say yet another ‘yes’.
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You hate letting people down, but as you’re always overcommitting yourself, you frequently do.
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You hate conflict and often agree to things just to keep the peace.
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You worry that sharing how you feel or asking for help makes you a burden to others – so you avoid it at all costs.
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You feel overwhelmed, drained and too-busy a lot of the time.​​​​
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You see others doing what works for them and asking for what they need, and you wonder why you can’t do the same.
Imagine if you could say no to invitations without that heavy feeling of guilt for letting people down.
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If you could communicate how you really feel and ask for what you need – without so much fear, guilt or shame.
"I found the course great value for the impact it had on me, which has been significant. It's helped me to confront my own feelings I'd pushed down for years, and start to remember the real me and what I actually like to do. It's helped me realise that I do deserve to prioritise myself, and have boundaries. I'm trying to break a pattern of behaviour and this course is really helping me to do that. I feel a sense of clarity and more confident than I have felt in a long time."
Introducing Say Yes to You
Through 3 weeks of self-paced learning and reflection, you will:
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Understand how ‘being a people-pleaser’ isn’t who you are, and change is possible (even though this may not feel true right now).
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Get to the bottom of why you feel the need to please so strongly, so you can move your life forward in a new, healthier direction.
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Discover what you actually want and need, underneath your people-pleasing.
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Build your self worth, so you feel more deserving of prioritising yourself.
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Find the strength to put yourself first without feeling guilty.
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Develop a more kind and caring relationship with yourself.
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Choose to look after yourself a lot better and more consistently.
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Know that you’re finally addressing your people-pleasing tendencies, instead of continuing to repeat the exhausting cycle.
"I joined Say Yes to You because I was hoping to change some of my people-pleasing behaviours. I was able to gain insight into my patterns and I'm starting to shift my mindset and behaviours to live a life that's more aligned with my needs and values, while also honouring the needs of the communities I belong to. Overall, I feel more at peace with myself and better able to balance my own needs with those of others."
Hello! - I'm Elsie
I'm a Psychotherapist specialising in people-pleasing and a recovering people-pleaser myself.
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My people-pleasing showed up mainly in my relationships, where I always came second and things felt imbalanced.
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I was great at mirroring others and highly attuned to their needs and feelings - any sense that they weren’t ok would send me into an anxious, panicky spin of feeling responsible.
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I had no idea what I liked, what I felt, what I wanted…I would default to others on everything. I was exhausted!
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After losing my way a little and ending up in therapy, I slowly learned that there was another way to live. A way of life that was centred more on what I needed and wanted.
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...and it didn't involve becoming the thoughtless, hurtful and difficult person I thought it would – who knew?!​
I love helping other people discover this too, and I’ve created Say Yes to You to do just that. This course is based on nearly a decade of helping people-pleasers prioritise themselves and I can’t wait to support more brilliant people, like you, through the process.
What you’ll learn
Each week, you’ll get short podcast teachings and reflection exercises to help you gently understand and address your difficulty with prioritising yourself:
1 - Understanding the people-pleasing cycle
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You'll explore why you people-please, where these patterns come from for you and why, until now, you’ve been unable to break the habit. Knowing why helps bring gentleness and compassion and makes meaningful change more realistic.
2 - Reconnecting with yourself
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Instead of pushing yourself into big changes right away, we'll start with what matters most - rebuilding your relationship with yourself. Learning how to tune back into your own feelings and needs is the foundation for any change you want to make in your relationships with others.
3 - Caring for yourself without the guilt
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You'll discover what truly nourishes you and how to create space for these things in your daily life, without feeling bad about it. This isn't about big adjustments, but little shifts you can create without others knowing. You’ll increase your confidence and comfort around prioritising yourself in little ways first, before considering wider changes later down the line.
I’ll help you feel more connected to what you want, more comfortable taking up space in your life and much less guilty and selfish for doing so.
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Because you matter too and it’s time you learned to believe it!
How Say Yes to You Works
When you join, you'll get access to all the content to work through in your own time. There’s a loose structure of 3 weeks, but you can choose your pace.
There are short podcasts (maximum 8mins long), reflection exercises (like journal prompts or practical tools to try) and a workbook with podcast transcripts and space to complete the exercises.
That’s it! There's no time limit on your access, so you can start - and revisit - whenever you like.
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"This is a wonderfully thoughtful course! 5-10 minutes a day felt really manageable, and was perfectly paired with a cuppa. It's helped me reflect on the huge impact people-pleasing has every single day for me. I'm now starting to tune in to what small changes might help me to start believing that I matter too"
How Say Yes to You Feels
This course will give you gentle encouragement and the space you need to stop pleasing everyone but yourself. You’ll start feeling able to say and do more of what you need, and tap into the lightness and freedom this brings.
I will fully support you, guiding you through the audio teachings & exercises and welcoming any questions you have on email or Instagram. You’ll feel seen, heard and understood as you embark on finding your way to prioritising yourself without feeling so bad about it. I’m excited to be part of your journey!
“This course, although self-led, has delved into areas of myself I had buried away, and I've had massive realisations. I feel like my eyes have been opened, and this course was 100% worth the investment. If I don't want to do something I'll cancel or say no, I don't feel compelled to explain myself, and I don't feel guilty. I feel stronger now, and value my self-worth. It only took around 15 minutes of my time each morning. It's not so much it's overwhelming, yet it really gets to the core of things and is powerful.”
Are you Ready to start saying "yes" to you?
Think of this as an investment in your future relationships, decisions, and the future 'nos' that will feel easier. The tools and insights you'll gain will serve you long after the course ends. You're not just investing in a course; you're investing in a new way of living that prioritises your wellbeing alongside everyone else’s.
Your investment includes:
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3 weeks of structured guidance to transform your people-pleasing patterns
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9 specialist audio teachings
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A comprehensive workbook with exercises and transcripts
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Lifetime access to all materials for ongoing support
And Say Yes to You will give you:
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More time for yourself
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Less stress and anxiety from constant people-pleasing
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More energy, time and capacity for what matters
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Skills and strategies you'll use for life
£120 (or 2 payments of £60)
By making payment, you agree to these terms.
“As someone who values kindness, it [used to feel] unrealistic to put my needs before others, but the course made changes feel doable and realistic. I've transformed my people pleasing ways and it's the exception, not the rule anymore!"
Your questions answered
I feel guilty spending money on myself - how do I know if it's worth it?
It's so common to question investing in yourself when people-pleasing is a pattern - that hesitation is part of what we'll be working on together.
You might consider:
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How easily would you make a similar investment for someone you love?
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What's the cost of continuing to put everyone else first? (time, burnout, stress, your happiness?)
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Breaking this down, it's about £5.70 per day for the structured course period - basically a posh coffee out (therapy with me is £95 a session).
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You get lifetime access, meaning you can revisit these tools and teachings whenever you need them.
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The skills you'll learn will serve you in every relationship and situation going forward. They may just change your life!
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How much time do I need to set aside each day?
About 15 minutes, which works nicely with a cuppa!
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What if I don't have time to focus on myself right now?
This is such a common part of people-pleasing! The course is specifically designed with this in mind, offering bite-sized sessions and gentle invitations rather than overwhelming commitments (15mins each day).
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I'm worried about making big changes - will this course push me too far?
This course is designed around gentle, sustainable change. We’ll start with understanding and self-connection, not pushing you into uncomfortable actions. You choose what feels right for you, and any changes you make are at your own pace.
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What if I fall behind or need to take a break?
Lots of people have taken longer than the loose structure of 3 weeks. You have unlimited access and can move through at whatever pace works for you. Everything is there to revisit when you choose.
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Is this course right for me if I'm already in therapy?
Yes - many people sign up alongside therapy. While it's not a replacement for therapeutic support, it can complement the work you’re already doing really nicely. I always suggest letting your therapist know you’re working through the content!
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Will I get access to all the content at once?
Yes - as soon as you join, you'll have access to all the course materials. While the content is structured into daily sessions, you're free to explore it in whatever way works best for you.
What format is the course in?
The course includes audio sessions (max 8 mins), a comprehensive workbook with all the content in written form, and journal prompts and exercises. You can engage in whatever way feels most helpful - listening, reading, writing, or a combo.
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What if I need support while doing the course?
While this is a self-study course, you're welcome to reach out with any technical questions. For emotional support during this process, I encourage connecting with your existing support system, whether that's friends, family, or your therapist.
Ready to join?
Think of this as an investment in your future relationships, decisions, and the future 'nos' that will feel easier. The tools and insights you'll gain will serve you long after the course ends. You're not just investing in a course; you're investing in a new way of living that prioritises your wellbeing alongside everyone else’s.
£120 or 2 payments of £60
By making payment, you agree to these terms.